• Those invited to a bridal shower are invited to the wedding.

• Do not have an "A" and "B" list. Someone who receives a "B" invitation is certain to find out they were not a first choice and will have hurt feelings.

• If you cannot invite all co-workers to your wedding, invite your boss only.

• Do not enclose information about your bridal registry with your invitations. People can find out the old-fashioned way - by asking.

• Do not ask for money or mention a money tree.

• Do not have a cash bar. It's like inviting friends to dinner, then asking them to pay.

• If you do not want children at your wedding, do not include their names. Add ADULT RECEPTION on your response card.

• Although you may have maintained a friendship with a guy you broke up with years ago, invite him only if your fiancé is comfortable with having him there.

• Do not include the name of a deceased parent on your invitations.

• Gifts received should be displayed together, without gift cards, in like categories: hollowware with hollowware, cookware with cookware, linens with linens. Show a single place setting of china, silver and crystal and do not display duplicate gifts.

• If you receive a response card that includes uninvited children, call the parents and explain the situation. Offer to provide a baby sitter.

• About 2 weeks before your wedding, go over the guest list and call anyone who has not responded. Politely state that you have not heard from them and you are afraid they did not receive the invitation due to the mail service.